Jessim

Ok so tonight during an enlightening conversation with Jackie I came upon the idea with her that I want to establish a new religion. The Jessism. It's a spin off of Mormons. (sp) In the mormon religion men can have as many wives as he wants but women can only have one husband. So I say my religion is women can have as many husbands as she wants but men can only have one wife.

It is nearly impossible to find a man with all the amazing quilities in one. Now let me elaborate a bit. I have had this convo with my friend Troy. Who I have come to find that he is as close as I think is possible to being the perfect man. Just not the perfect man for me. Hence we are great friends. Not to mention he has a wonderful girlfriend right now either.

But back to the point at hand. In life women find that they continuly sacrifice certain aspects in every relationship big or small. Let's explain, Mary (all names have been changed to ensure privacy...lol) meets an incredible looking guy. He looks amazing, great body gorgeous face the works.. And with this he has an amazing attitude and personality. And he seems to not to have commitment issues for a lack of better words. And he can intellectualy stimulate her. Nearly a complete package. But once the intimate aspect comes to play, it falls far behind all his other amazing aspects. Whether it be his technique or lets be blunt he doesn't have the equipment to back it up. (which by the way gentlemen small or large equipment isn't nearly as big a problem if you are amazing with what you have. So don't get so hung up on this factor if you sway one way or the other. And if you find yourself reading this you know which side you fall on. wow.) So Mary finds herself sacrificing a great physical relationship because of all his other defining qualities.

Or Mary finds herself with a great looking guy who is a stallon in the sack. But his attitude just out right sucks and he can't find it in him to make a commitment to anything. Hell he can't even be solid in what he wants from you. And he can be a complete jerk. So you have a physical relationship but it soon fades because he has nothing more to offer her.

Let's go even farther into this, Mary finds herself in a relationship with a fine looking man, once again can fullfill the physical needs of the relationship and he is a complete sweetheart.. But he is dumber that a box of rocks. So once again she sacrifices something she enjoys because of the combination of attraction to him. But is soon bored to tears because all he can comprehend is the simplest of things...

And in strolls the man who makes Mary think and feel amazing things. He can hold up his side of conversation. He can satisfy her needs phsically. He has no issues with commitment but isn't what Mary would call overly attractive. This is what I see the most of because most times Mary will become more attracted to him because he completes her in the most important ways. And honestly I think this is the healthiest sacrifice to make. But by all means if you can't get beyond the outward appearance then you should end this one the quickest because this can be the most painful for both Mary and the guy. Yes it's a catch 22 I know. ( Wow Mary really gets around a lot doesn't she. And some of you would say she is easy or a slut. Don't get me started on the damn double standard on physical needs. It will get ugly and it's way too late for it.)

Now do you see what I am trying to get at? It's never all that you are looking for. Now whether that makes us to picky or complex I don't think so. Why lower your standards and your wants and needs just because no one else will raise theirs. Men do this all the time. I see more men married to complete idiots because they want a trophy and a vixen in the sack. Now I don't say this to degrade men. That is not what I am getting at. But why should anyone men or women not want the whole package and get it.

So this is where my new religion comes into play. Sorry guys you are just easier to please then us women it's a known fact that even confuses us sometimes. So Jessism will allow women to have more than one husband. One for each aspect of the whole package. If he has more than one of them then she needs one less husband to get all that she needs. One for the amazing body, one that feeds her sexual appetite, one that can compete with her on a intellectual level. One that does those amazingly sweet things like remember her favorite kind of flower and gives them to her for no reason. And one that views her with absolute devotion. See the genius in the concept. No more sacrificing what women want because no one man will give it to her.. Now this may sound selfish but hey you know what BIG DAMN DEAL. Doesn't everyone deserve to have all they want.

Now men may object to this idea because they could only have the one wife but hey we try our absolute best to mold ourselves into what men want every day. Maybe the tables need to finally turn. I guarantee you would understand us women much better this way. You would then know exactly what it is we want from you. No more guessing if you had done something wrong as long as you fullfilled your end of the bargin you signed on for. And not to mention we would then be completely happy and be able to fullfill your needs as well. Happy women always want to share the wealth with you.

Now you say my opinion maybe scewed, well I don't think so. Women for ages have sacrificed themselves for men. Or changed themselves to be what men wanted. If this isn't true you wouldn't see as many anorexic, tormented women trying to figure out what men wanted. The past has proven that women have always adapted to men's wants and needs. Hence the 1950's wife who met her husband at the door with a dry vodka martini perfectly groomed to his standards with dinner on the table and the amount of children he wanted. Who would do all the sexual acrobatics he wanted in the bedroom. Look at the other cultures of the world that are ages behind us where women can't even walk along side her huband because she is in servitude to him. Where women are used only for the means of bearing his children.

So I say let's flip the switch a bit. Whether you agree or disagree it causes you to think about it and maybe change the way you do things in your relationships. Maybe it's time we all re-evaluate ourselves and see what it is we want and need. And how we can better ourselves and others.. Ok I guess I am done for now. Getting off my soap box for tonight as it's 2:24 am. Feel free to agree or disagree but at least it's got you thinking one way or the other.