What would you say?

If there is one good thing that can come from being stuck at home, it's catching up on some good old couch potato action.. Or, non-action, I guess one would say.

This morning I watched High Fidelity with John Cusak. I love that man, there is not one movie he has made that I don't like.

The movie kind of fell along the lines of looking back on your life and the choices you make. He is going through a break-up and decides to look back at his past 5 relationships and find out where he went wrong, or if, in fact, it was he that went wrong.

I ask you…

If you could get five of your exes in a room, individually, of course, what would you want to say to them, or.. What would you want to ask them?

I'll start.. Since it IS my blog and all..

In no particular order...



1. I would tell him that he needs to really grow up. That while I thought I loved him, I can see now that it wasn't a really true and deep love. More like an outlet for all the feelings I hadn't yet dealt with. He needs to stop looking back and trying to pull people back into his life just because he is scared that he may not of made the right choices.

I'd ask him why he held on so long when it wasn't what he wanted.

2. I would tell him that he effected me in ways I may never recover from. That while I can look at him as a distant friend now, I hold some very harsh feelings towards him for what all he put me through. That he needs to once and for all deal with all his past problems. And finally fess up to the fact that he isn't really a good guy. And contrary to popular belief I stopped waiting or wanting him some time ago.

I'd ask him if he will ever realize all the hurt he caused.

3. I would tell him that he seriously needs to get a handle on his life. That you can't keep blaming others for your own unhappiness. That I did love him beyond reason. And when I was finally brought into the light of what was really going on I went way too easy on him. I shouldn't of let him get away with all he had done. That it may seem to him he got what he deserved, it was no where near what he should of got. I will never be able to forget what happened between us and I hope that he will not be able to either.

I'd ask him if he realizes he can never fix his biggest mistake.

4. I would thank him for my daughter and giving me the chance to finally be the mother I wanted to be. While what we were doens't really fall into the category of "relationship" I enjoyed what I had with him and I look back at it fondly. That what I know now compared to what I knew then I see I didn't know who he really was and I am happy that I have had the chance to find out who he really is. That I am proud to see the steps he has taken to make some things right and that it has made a real difference in my life as well as others.

I'd ask him to never go back on the choices he has made and why it took him so long to step up.

5. I would tell him I'm sorry that I made some wrong choices in our marriage but that I wasn't the only who did. We both messed things up. I would of been able to just end things quietly if he hadn't been set to wreck my life. I wasn't the only one to screw things up and I never intentionally tried to make his life hell. That I haven't forgotten all the things he did following our split but that I let it all go. I'm glad that we can now be civil to each other for our daughters sake.

I would ask him to finally tell me the truth about it all.

Your Turn now.